This applies to you but may also be a quality you look for in the attorney that you choose. Conflicts should be resolved peacefully and with the aid of an attorney that has your best interests at heart; not one that is overly litigious and causes you to incur excessive legal fees. You should consider hiring an attorney familiar with mediation and collaborative divorce.
Great things can be achieved through mindful discussion. This includes discussions with your attorney and with your former partner.
You must feel that you have a connection with your attorney. Your lifestyle should be one filled with peace and wishing good-will unto others, so it makes sense to choose any attorney with a similar perspective when handling this very meaningful stage in your life.